Day: May 23, 2018

From the Heart of Your Pastor

By Chad Mattingly in Church Life on May 23, 2018

As most of you know, I am a third generation pastor’s kid. My dad was a pastor his whole career, as was his father (and my uncle as well). Some might say that any pastor’s kid is a long shot to turn out normal, much less the son of a pastor who was the son of a pastor. Perhaps it is becoming more and more clear why your pastor (me) is such a piece of work.

There are some advantages though. I grew up in the church. 365 days of the year, my family was at the church, serving the church, loving the church, celebrating and crying with the church. You might not know, but after a few years a pastor’s heart beats with the church they are serving. We feel the joys and pains, the highs and lows, the peace and restlessness of the church.

This past Sunday when I stood before you, I felt something that broke my heart. I felt a spirit of anxiousness and unhappiness, as though some of you were hurting. It wasn’t what anyone said or did, but simply a sense or spirit that I picked up on.  On Sunday evening at the Board meeting, the cause became abundantly clear. Over the past few weeks, a rumor started among a few groups within our congregation that the times for the new worship service, scheduled for September 9, 2018, were already decided and that the time for the traditional service time was changed.

First and foremost, this is completely untrue. Sunday night’s meeting was the first time that the Board discussed any proposals from the New Service Planting Team concerning the new worship service, and no proposals were approved.

Secondly, I have to say that several revelations brought forth in the meeting broke my heart. It broke my heart that unconfirmed information was shared as though factual. It broke my heart that no one immediately sought to confirm the information with me or a Board member before spreading it. It broke my heart that many congregation members were hurt deeply by this misinformation. But mostly, it broke my heart that anyone in our congregation could believe that your pastor or Board would make such a significant decision in such an uncaring way without seeking to hear from you… our church family.

Friends, your pastor and Board love you and respect you. We would never make a decision like shifting the whole Sunday morning schedule without consulting you. To be clear, the Board is empowered by the congregation to make important decisions pertaining to church life, but rest assured that we represent you and seek your consultation so that we can make key decisions wisely.

And so, we must all claim this as an opportunity to learn and grow, to pray and evaluate how we can better honor each other and protect the treasures that we hold dear in Kingwood Christian Church. We must all seek ways to foster greater trust believing the best in each other. My vow is that I will try to do a better job of communicating and updating the congregation when big decisions, like those pertaining to the new service, are on the horizon. May we covenant to make every effort to grow our trust in Christ and each other as we move forward together.