Category: Church Life

Open-Minded Conversations at KCC

By Chad Mattingly in Church Life on March 14, 2018

Something happened last night in the Fellowship Hall of Kingwood Christian Church that most might claim was improbable, if not impossible. Despite our polarized political landscape, ten highly engaged Republican leaders and ten passionate Democratic leaders from our community gathered for a dialogue seeking a “fix” for our broken political system. Sound like a recipe for disaster? Perhaps so, or could gathering the seemingly entrenched sides for respectful conversations be the key to breaking our political gridlock.

Dr. Jay Theis, the Director of the Center for Civic Engagement at Lone Star College in Kingwood, believes that the way forward will require gathering for difficult conversations that foster cooperation. Theis believes that the significant issues that divide our country cannot be understood or resolved in two minute sound bites, but in respectful gatherings of people with diverse views. For this reason, Theis reached out to a cross-section of community leaders and invited them to participate in a deliberative dialogue hosted by Kingwood Christian Church.

The Deliberative Dialogues construct used by Theis’ team at Lone Star provides a way for community members of diverse views and experiences to seek a shared understanding of a problem and to search for common ground for action. Dialogues are led by trained moderators, and use an issue discussion guide that frames the issue by presenting the overall problem, followed by three or four broad approaches to the problem. Dialogue participants work through the issue by considering each approach; examining what appeals to them or concerns them; and also what costs, consequences, and tradeoffs may be incurred in following that approach.

What was the result of our conversation? After a two hour discussion, the groups agreed on three areas of common ground. Yes, I will say it again. Three significant areas of agreement were identified that, if addressed, could really improve our political dysfunction. The group plans to reconvene in May and present these points at a candidate forum co-sponsored by the Kingwood Area Republican Women and Kingwood Area Democrats. How is that for a night’s work? The tried and true art of respectful, open-minded conversation prevails again. And I could not be more pleased that Kingwood Christian Church was the host.

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Finding an Anchor

By Chad Mattingly in Church Life on March 7, 2018

We must no longer be children, tossed to and fro and blown about by every wind of doctrine, by people’s trickery, by their craftiness in deceitful scheming.  But speaking the truth in love, we must grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ,  Ephesians 4:14-15

As a dad, one my favorite things to do is pick on my kids. I think it is in some Mattingly family contract somewhere. “Thou shalt picketh on thy children every day.” I find immense satisfaction in pulling a prank or joke on my son or daughter. They are just so gullible. Sadly, I have pulled so many jokes on them through the years that they question the truthfulness of many things I say. Alas, they are growing up and becoming wiser.

Paul makes it very clear that we, as followers of Jesus, must grow up in faith as well. Young Christ followers are easily tossed to and fro, distracted, manipulated and taken advantage of. But each day presents a new opportunity to take another step toward maturity in our Christ-likeness. This is what spiritual growth is all about… becoming more like Jesus. Throughout history, Christians have used different spiritual practices as catalysts for growth and anchors for faithfulness.

Over the past several weeks, I have challenged you to identify a spiritual practice for Lent. Many of you have done this, which is great, but perhaps you are struggling to find a practice that is right for you. Some practices work for one person, but not for another. For that reason, I attached below a simple Spiritual Pathways Assessment. It only takes about 10 minutes to complete and will help you identify your “pathways,” how you naturally connect with God. If you have any questions, please contact the church office.

For the PDF version click below and print:

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For the Excel version click below:

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My Favorite Night of the Week

By Chad Mattingly in Church Life on February 28, 2018

Tuesday night is quickly becoming my favorite night of the week. It is the night that Peyton and I make our weekly trek down to Humble Middle School for his Special Olympics basketball practice. Upon entering the gym, the warmth of these wonderful athletes and their families is felt immediately with a barrage of “hellos or great to see you,” smiles and hugs. Peyton and I counted 10 hugs last night before I could find a place to sit.

The athletes on Peyton’s team have various skill levels and range in age from 12-56. Though agility and stamina levels vary, there is no shortage of effort or competitiveness on the court with athletes diving for balls on a regular basis. There is also no shortage of sportsmanship and kindness. There is always a ready, “Good job,” or high five, or extra pass to make sure that everyone gets a chance to shoot. The parents always offer a tireless source of encouragement celebrating every achievement and player as essential to the team.

I sat there watching the controlled chaos last night thinking, “What a gift. I can learn so much from these beautiful friends.” On display in front of me was kindness, compassion, gentleness, humility, wisdom, sacrificial giving, joy, hope, community, desire and love. Some label these individuals with Downs Syndrome, Mental Retardation, Aspergers Syndrome or Autism as disabled. I would suggest that they are differently abled. These differently abled friends remind me of who I am. I often live under the illusion that I am not disabled or handicapped in different ways, that I have it all together.

Our society has a tendency of pushing aside the weak, the old, the simple, the uneducated or unaccomplished, the differently abled, abnormal or ugly (whatever that means). Yet a closer look at these “differently abled” others reveals a bounty of gifts, blessings, insights and contributions to offer. Each Tuesday night I am reminded of these undeniable truths. I challenge you to find some way to be in immediate contact with the differently abled neighbors in our community. You will be blessed.

The Church is NOT the Point

By Chad Mattingly in Church Life on February 21, 2018

Richard Rohr starts off one of this brilliant meditations with this series of statements. Nothing in this world is an end in itself, including the church, priests, pastors, popes, laws, bible – nothing. Only God is an end; everything else is a means. Only God can save us, not the church. 

I for one have immense love for the church. When I was young, my family was among the faithful present every time the church doors were open. The congregation was like a loving, extended family and words cannot express how much I was formed and benefited from participating in the church through the years. That said, the church cannot give us what we so desperately need. It cannot save us or set us free… only God can do that. The church (at its best) is a beautiful gift, a means by and through which God heals, loves, teaches, serves, cares, feeds, clothes and otherwise ushers in the Kingdom.

Sadly, sometimes the church mistakes itself as the point instead of the means to God’s point. It is this kind of thinking and acting that leads congregations down unhealthy and destructive paths. When we, the church get the idea that our people, our buildings, our programs, our budgets, our agendas and our survival is the point, then we have lost something essential to our intended identity and mission. It is no longer about the great, aforementioned Kingdom mission, but rather getting butts in the pews, money in the church coffers and defending our positions.

In a time when church attendance continues to decline many ask, “How can we save the church?” I suspect that God might redirect us to a better question, “How can we continue in our mission to save the world?”

Faces of God

By Chad Mattingly in Church Life on February 14, 2018

I have heard it said on many occasions that Houston is the most diverse city in the world. What an extraordinary calling card for our city. Within the greater Houston area, we display the greatest diversity in skin tone, language and cultural heritage in the world. From a faith perspective, it could be said that when we look out over our city we are blessed see the colors of heaven. Let me explain what I mean.

Genesis 1 teaches us that we are ALL made in the image of God. All of us are little, walking talking revelations or pictures of the Creator. God is not represented in one or a few of us, but in all of us together. Early Christian philosophers and theologians taught about this beautiful truth by using the Latin word persona. Persona referred to the large theatrical masks used by Greek actors to set apart different characters in the play. Each mask and player was unique in size, shape and color, but still an essential part of the larger play.

According to the Scriptures, we, humanity as a whole, all wear masks. But our unique masks offer glimpses of God. Consider that for a moment. Each and every person that we encounter in our beautiful city, regardless of size, shape, color, language, culture, intellect, ability or disability, affluence level, religion or sexual orientation are revelations, faces of God. All of us are unique, beautiful image bearers of the Creator. So church, let us not allow our differences to divide us. May we follow Jesus and recognize that in every face we encounter, no matter how different, the face of God is revealed.

Where Have All the Children Gone?

By Chad Mattingly in Church Life on February 7, 2018

“When that generation too had been gathered to its fathers, another generation followed it which knew neither Yahweh nor the deeds that he had done for the sake of Israel.” They had forgotten. Judges 2:10

Where have all the children gone? This is the question being asked by most church leaders in this season of history. Unlike the generations of faithful masses that have frequented traditional churches looking to find God, the younger generations, the Generation Xers and Millennials, are on the whole nowhere to be found. Thus, the question entrusted to today’s pastor and lay leader is this. Where have they gone and how might the church reengage and welcome them into faith community once again.

I had coffee with a community leader the other day and our conversation turned to this topic. He shared with me some interesting insights that the greying church would do well to consider. He said, “The younger generations do not need the church to find God. In fact, many believe that God is much easier to find in nature, art, music or philosophy than in the traditional church. The younger generations no longer need the church for community. They find friendships at the office, at the gym, in their yoga community or online. The younger generations require legitimate faith to be connected to a cause that makes the world a better place.

The church must embrace the poor, the hungry, the homeless, the refugee, the outsider, the LGBTQ community, the lonely, the weary, the addicted, the depressed and the hopeless. We embrace, not for the purpose of conversion or membership, but because of love and an eagerness to see God’s just kingdom here as it is in heaven. That is the church that will welcome these younger generations. That is the church that proves its faith authentic and worthy of a hearing in the public square. I would suggest that is the church Jesus envisioned from the beginning.

It all starts here…

By kingwood in Church Life on February 2, 2018

The life and words of Saint Francis continue to challenge and inspire us almost 800 years after his death. The resounding message he leaves us is that of worship, living in a constant practice of praise and adoration for God. He praises God for this and praises God for that. In every situation, whether it be seemingly good or bad upon viewing it from the outside…he praises God. How is he able to live like this?

I believe the key to his devotion is this. To believe that there is no time, to place, no situation in which God is not loving us. Allow yourself to consider the implications of this statement upon daily life. What if we trusted that in all circumstances, good and bad, that God was right in middle of it loving us? What if we believed that God claims every event, every conversation, every failure and success to love us and teach us again what love is? If you think about it, affirming this statement not only ushers us into a life of praise, but invites us to reinterpret everything.

Excellence Never Sits On Its Hands

By kingwood in Church Life on August 23, 2017

 

I was talking with one of our members the other day who works in the executive office for Humble ISD, one of the best and most awarded school districts in the state. She told me something interesting. Recently, the senior staff took a trip to Google headquarters to tour the campus, observe the organizational culture and learn from their executive leadership. One might ask, “Why would they do this? Why would one excellent, executive team travel to observe another excellent, but very different organization?” The answer is simple. Excellence never sits on its hands. It is always learning, always growing, always seeking to get better.

Several times lately I have been asked, “Why are we making all these trips to visit other Disciples of Christ congregations?” The same principle applies. Though Kingwood Christian Church does many things well, we can learn much from other thriving, growing congregations. This past weekend our Evangelism Task Force visited First Christian Church of Tyler, a congregation averaging about 250 in worship each Sunday. Interestingly, FCC Tyler was the size of our church 8 years ago. In the past 8 years, their congregation grew significantly in ministry involvement, community service and membership (specifically reaching young families). How did they do it? What were the key decisions and initiatives that inspired this growth?

This is why we made these trips, to observe, to listen, to be inspired, and to discern what translates to our context. The Evangelism Task Force looks forward to sharing our experiences and findings with you in the coming months as we enter this exciting season of discernment and new directions.

With great love,

Chad Mattingly

August

By kingwood in Church Life on August 4, 2017

As most of you know, over the past several months a team of leaders from our church have been commissioned and resourced by the Coastal Plains Area for a very important initiative to visit some of our denomination’s most vibrant and growing congregations. Our first visit was to Middletown Christian Church in Louisville, KY and our second trip was to Geist Christian Church in Indianapolis, IN. We are in the process of planning a third trip to a sister congregation here in Texas for later this month. Our objective is to observe the guiding principles and healthy practices that enable these congregation to flourish in reaching all generations.

During our visits, we were like sponges soaking up every conversation, insight and experience. We attended worship services and special events, observed Sunday school and small group gatherings for all ages, and interviewed pastoral staff, lay leadership and various congregation members. Among many helpful insights, one prominent characteristic stood out. Churches that effectively reach all generations place a HUGE priority on children and youth. In fact, one pastor said that reaching children and youth is the first priority among the leadership of the church. This begs the question, “What would KCC look like if we decided that reaching children and youth was our number one priority? How would this priority effect worship, small groups, service opportunities, fellowship events, our church budget and facilities?” Imagine what that would look like.

This week, two excellent leaders have joined our staff to serve in this key area. Emily Hollibaugh joins us as the Interim Director of Children’s Ministry and Denise Morris as the Interim Children’s Ministry Event Coordinator. We are blessed to have such talented leaders to guide our children through this time of transition.

Together, Chad