Though he was in the form of God, he did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, taking the form of a servant, and being born in human likeness. —Philippians 2:6
These thoughts from Paul to the church at Philippi are worthy of pondering. Jesus, the Son of the Living God, our teacher and model came and comes to us offering this powerful image about God. Though it might seem that our world moves along amassing power, positions and possessions, God is constantly outpouring, emptying (him)self to make room for something new. This is the way God thinks, acts and moves history forward.
This process is called Kenosis, the Greek term for self-emptying. It is God’s’ unexpected, upside-down strategy for healing the world. Think of it like the flow of a waterwheel from God to us. This flow starts with God’s self-emptying, sacrificial love. This flow passes to Jesus as he comes and walks among us exemplifying the same “self-emptying” way of teaching and living. Finally in the gospel of John, the flow continues as Jesus breathes over his disciples giving the Spirit that leads us to take on the posture of a servant. Thus the cycle of self-giving continues.
The potential impact of a self-giving life is unending. Its flow is perpetually fed by an enduring trust that God is faithful and will provide more. The only way to stop the flow of Kenosis is to decide that the opposite is true, that God is not faithful and will not provide. Jesus called and calls his disciples to step into the flow and risk vulnerability. Risking vulnerability is an unavoidable component of discipleship.
This is the path we walk together. This is the way of Jesus. How is Jesus calling you to participate in this flow, pouring out your life for the sake of hope and healing in our world?
Perhaps you didn’t know, but Kingwood Christian Church was
the subject of my doctoral dissertation several years ago. The subject of my
research was “Understanding Congregational Culture to Enable Effective Leadership.”
Congregational culture is defined as the underlying beliefs, behaviors and
practices within a congregation that determine “who we are” and “how we do
So I invited 60 lay leaders from the past 10 years to
complete a survey about our church culture. The survey identified our
congregational identity, focus and dominant values. It assessed if we are
people focused or task focused, inward focused or outward focused. It assessed
if our dominant focus was Community
Oriented; relationships and unity, Structure
Oriented; function and organization, Flexibility
Oriented; innovation and edginess, or Impact
Oriented; results and mission.
Where do you think KCC came out? Our culture is strongly
oriented to value and focus on community. The community oriented church is
characterized by a warm, close-knit fellowship. The focus is inward and
people-oriented. KCC aspires to be like an extended family. These are wonderful
attributes that make our KCC family very deep and warm. One verse that came to
mind was Galatians 6:10, “Therefore as we have opportunity, let us do good to
all people, especially those who belong to the family of believers.”
In 2018, we welcomed 42 new members into our church family
and reintroduced ourselves to hundreds more neighbors in the area. Hallelujah,
what a blessing to be growing! I completely expect this growth to continue.
Thus, the all-important question becomes, “How can we continue to foster our
close-knit, family feel while welcoming new friends?” The answer is a renewed
focus and commitment to connection. This is the vision the staff will present
at the upcoming Leadership Retreat, that over 80% of our congregation is
connected to a small group outside of worship.
Please pray for these important efforts and stay tuned for opportunities to get involved.
As you might expect, this article has caused quite a stir within our community. Everywhere I go someone is commenting about the article and inquiring about the church. One pastor from a prominent Kingwood congregation said, “Kingwood Christian Church is really becoming the church known for welcoming and loving everyone, especially those who do not fit the Kingwood mold.” I was so happy to hear him say that word is spreading about our little church, that our message (Love, not Judgment, Extravagant Welcome, Open-Minded Conversations and Compassionate Service) is taking root in our community.
I could not believe it on Sunday morning when someone laid the Houston Chronicle Religion section on my desk. To my surprise, it was a full-color, cover article (above the fold) about little Kingwood Christian Church and the launch of the Table Service. We knew that several reporters had attended on the Table launch Sunday, but had all but lost hope that an article was on its way. The article caption reads, “Kingwood Christian Church seeks to create a more inclusive, less formal service.” The article goes on to describe our church as one where following Jesus means breaking down barriers between people, loving and accepting everyone and celebrating diversity around The Table.
This is the calling and mission that God has entrusted to us, that we would become a movement of welcome and inclusion that embraces all people as children of God and invites them to follow Jesus. Praise God! May it be so.
How did Kingwood Christian Church’s Joy for the World Market come to be?
Back in 2008 my friend Karen Evans Head told me about a charity called Bead for Life that was helping women in Uganda feed their children by creating beads out of recycled colored magazine pages. She had seen a news story about it and thought it was the kind of thing our women’s ministry might want to get involved with. She was right!
The women of KCC fell in love with Bead for Life and their mission to empower women in Uganda to eradicate poverty “one bead at a time.” We hosted our first “Bead Party” that year, selling their unique colorful bracelets and necklaces in the church foyer over three Sundays in late November and raised $1632 our sisters in Uganda.
The following year we weren’t sure whether we should sell the jewelry again, since our members had been so generous the previous year. Would there be enough interest for another year? We decided it was worth another try to help our Ugandan sisters. To our pleasant surprise, we raised $1635 the following year. And so we just kept going.
For four years we hosted an annual Bead Party and we raised a total of $7086 for our sisters in Uganda. By this time, the women weren’t just able to feed their children 3 meals a day instead of 2, but they had created a whole village where women were able to purchase a plot of land and build their own home, which is everything. They also founded a Leadership Academy, empowering women with the knowledge of business knowledge and practices to create sustainable small businesses.
About this time my friend Mary Sue McIlvain told me about Alternative Gifts International, and the gift market that her church in San Antonio hosted every year. Our Bead for Life group decided it was time to take things to another level and our Joy for the World gift market was born in 2012 with 59 charities. We were thrilled to raise $13, 124.
Over the next five years, we hosted the one-day Joy Market and raised money for 90 local, national and international charities totaling $68,850. Each year, KCC supported our market by budgeting the money needed to promote and host our Joy Market, and the KCC family supported us by volunteering to coordinate charity booths and bake cakes and by doing their Christmas shopping at our market.
One of the unexpected blessings of our market has been building relationships with these charities over the years. When Hurricane Harvey hit the Texas gulf coast in September, 2017, I received a phone call from the Executive Director of AGI, Surrinder Moore. She called to see how the church fared in the storm and if we needed anything. When I told her about the church opening our doors as a shelter for those displaced by flood waters, she said, without hesitation, “We want to help. I’m not sure how much, but we are sending a check to help KCC with the relief work you are doing.” Imagine our shock to receive a check for $5,000 the next week. This summer, KCC received a local food pantry grant from AGI in the amount of $1700 for our Feed My Lambs program. Because we already had budgeted funds to cover our Feed My Lambs program for the year, the money was used by our KCC youth to create welcome bags for folks who stop by the church seeking assistance with bills, food, and/or resources beyond what KCC can provide. Our middle and high school youth wanted to be able to offer something tangible to members of our community who visit our church needing assistance with basic needs. Our grant from AGI provided the funds to make their idea a reality. The greatest surprise came when the new AGI gift catalog came out this year and KCC was featured on page 2!
This year we are excited to host our Joy for the World “Mini” Market this Sunday, December 9, before and after 11:00am worship in the foyer of the Sanctuary and before and after our KCC Christmas Dinner and Variety Show at 6pm in the Fellowship Hall. Kingwood Christian Church is located at 3910 West Lake Houston Parkway. You will recognize some of your favorite charities and merchandise: Alternative Gifts International (AGI) catalog, Bead for Life, Equal Exchange coffee, olive oil and chocolate, SERRV, Rahab’s Rope, 2019 Grenada Mission Trip, Ten Thousand Villages, and a special opportunity to support for the Margreat Hakim family. Many gift items are under $10 and 100% of all purchases will go directly to the charities. All purchases can be paid for at one time with cash, check or credit card. So get ready for some fair-trade Christmas shopping! Grab your checkbooks, your piggy banks and your Christmas cash envelopes on your way to church Sunday morning and on your way back for our Christmas dinner & show on Sunday night. Partner with us in continuing our ten year tradition of bringing Joy to the World through our fair-trade market.
So if you haven’t heard, Christmas is coming. Presents are coming. Family is coming. Turkey and stuffing, Santa and elves, The Griswalds and Ralphie Parker are coming. Rudolph and Pepper, our elf on the shelf, Bing Crosby, Mariah Carey and Michael Buble are coming. Christmas is coming. But also the Messiah is coming. The Savior is coming. The God of the Universe in flesh is coming. Prepare ye the way.
We as Americans and Christians have packed so much into the four weeks between Thanksgiving and December 25, that there seldom seems to be enough time or energy to attend to the coming Messiah. Honestly, I don’t think it is because we have taken Christ out of Christmas. I think we’ve left Christ in Christmas. We’ve just buried him under layers of other things we’re also trying to celebrate like trees and family and presents and decorations and holiday traditions. I don’t know about you, but sometimes Christmas feels like trying to put 5 lbs. of fun into a 3 lb. bag. My Christmas schedule fills like a takeout container at Golden Corral, so full it won’t close, and Jesus is somewhere buried at the bottom. But… this… year…, I believe we long for Jesus to come to us again and show us the way to something new.
Advent means an anticipated arrival or the coming of a notable person. It is a season of preparing the way and then celebrating the arrival of the Savior, the Christ-child Jesus. I want to invite you into an intentional season of preparation for this holyarrival and provide you a resource for the journey. Below is the link to a daily devotional guide for the Advent season provided by the ministers and leaders of the Coastal Plains Area of the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ). I encourage you to carve out a few moments each day to read and reflect with these authors on the beauty and mystery of the season.
May God bless your preparation with a new and meaningful gift far greater than those found under your tree.
We go to church so as not to be alone – alone in our joys, alone in our suffering, alone in the everydayness of our lives, alone in the important passages of our lives. We go to church to tell people we love them, and hopefully to hear them tell us the same thing. -Ronald Rolheiser
Over the past few weeks, I have been thinking about the importance of family and community during the holidays. In a society that celebrates independence, the holidays serve as a reminder of the part inside us all that cries out for connection, a sense of belonging. Knit inside of us is a need for community. It is the divine signature of our Creator.
Jesus taught his followers that they were apart of a family. They were not meant to journey through life alone, but to be a part of a community of faith, the church. No part of the body or community of Christ functions by itself, nourishes itself or serves itself alone. Every part is for every other part – whether hurting or rejoicing. We need each other to share the mundane everydayness and miraculous gifts of this life. Perhaps most importantly, we need each other to give and receive love.
Henri Nouwen reminds us that the Spirit does her best work when we gather in community, when we “create a free and empty space when people can gather and practice true obedience.” At our best, the church of Jesus creates a space free of judgmentalism, self-righteousness and arrogance. Jesus described and modeled a community brimming with love and acceptance where all are welcomed as a part of the family. It brings me so much joy to see this kind of community blossoming here at KCC.
Let me share with you some thoughts from a book I’m reading by John Pavlovitz called A Bigger Table. Of course, I was immediately drawn to the title for obvious reasons. Our church family at KWCC aspires to build a bigger table, a table big enough to welcome all people, a table that truly celebrates diversity. Building faith community that embraces diversity is fraught with challenges though. Pavlovitz writes, “Almost every church on the planet claims to desire, seek and welcome diversity – until real, messy, diverse diversity shows up at the door looking for a home, and then there’s suddenly no room in the inn.” Pavlovitz goes on to claim that every congregation has a diversity threshold, a limited level of difference that they will tolerate comfortably.
That got me thinking, “Do we have a diversity threshold?” Do we have a point at which we draw the line and say, “Ok, that is enough different people thank you very much!” My great hope was that our promotional campaign, announcing KWCC to be Loving, Accepting, Open and Inclusive, and the launch of the Table service would effectively open our doors to well… everyone. I am happy to say that is exactly what is happening. In the three Sundays since the launch, we have welcomed between 40-50 first time guests between the Traditions and Table Services… and many of them are returning again and again. That is amazing!
Upon hearing their stories, I learned that these guests come from diverse backgrounds culturally, socio-economically, religiously, politically and generationally. One guest said, “I usually don’t feel welcome in churches. I have a pretty messy past.” I replied, “Bring it on. We are very familiar with messy around here.” Another new family said, “We have been driving down into Houston searching for a church that would love and accept us. I am so surprised to find this church right here in Kingwood.” Another guest simply asked, “Should I wear nice clothes to come to church? I do not have many nice clothes.” I said, “Come as you are. There is a community of love and acceptance waiting for you at KWCC.”
Diverse crowds are coming and that will require open minds, open hearts and a reaffirmation of our core value of Love, not Judgment. My hope is that we never discover a diversity threshold at KWCC, but that God will walk alongside us in welcoming our diverse neighbors and expand our hearts to love and accept all people as we follow Jesus together.
You might have heard it said, “God never changes.” Do you agree? It is certainly true of God’s existence. The Psalmist writes, “God, you are constant, your days will not come to an end.” It is certainly true of the character of God. As the prophet Isaiah writes, “The grass withers and the flowers fade, but the word of our God stands forever.” God is forever trustworthy, forever loving, forever faithful. We can stand firm on this foundation.
But certainly the ways of God are always changing. Each servant of God starting with Abraham offered their unique gifts and graces to the mission and thus God’s movement evolved in form and changed in practice along the way. The heart of God’s message does not change, but certainly expressions of gospel ministry change from context to context. This is also true of local church congregations and denominational structures as well.
The Coastal Plains Area of the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ), of which we are a covenant member, is entering a time of change and restructuring for our next season of ministry. Essentially, the Area offices located throughout the Southwest Region are consolidating into a centralized office in Fort Worth, Texas. This restructuring will shift all administrative and financial oversight to the Regional Office, while maintaining the continuity of our various ministries within the Houston area. Our Area Minister Rev. Peggy Edge expects to continue in her position providing pastoral and congregational support as well as assistance with Search and Call for churches seeking new leadership.
I have attached a letter below with additional information about the restructure from Rev. Dr. Michael Dunn, Area Moderator and Senior Minister at First Christian Church of Houston. This is a prudent and necessary transition for our area, one that allows for greater focus and efficiency for our shared mission as a movement for wholeness in a fragmented world.
So what are people saying about the new Table Service at KCC?
“What a blessing! I loved it and will be back! What a sacred and beautiful gathering! Wonderful, wonderful day… I just got finished raving about it to my friend. God was very present for sure. It felt like home. I have several friends I am going to invite to join me the Table. It was like living water. God is good!”
These were just a few comments that I received this past Sunday after our church family courageously stepped out and launched the Table Service. We welcomed between 65-70 (depending on who you ask) to our first gathering. By my estimation, about 30-35 of those attending were regular attenders to our Traditions Service and the rest were new friends and neighbors from our community. Yes… you read correctly. Half of our crowd were guests who were either invited by our folks or saw our promotions and decided to check us out. Wow, what a blessing!
An extravagant welcomes statement set the tone for our service claiming the Table as safe, welcoming space no matter your age, skin color, marital status, sexual orientation, abilities or special needs, health or emotional state, gender identity, citizenship or immigration status. No matter if you believe some of the time, none of the time or all of the time, you are welcome at the Table. “It truly felt like a celebration of diversity. I felt truly welcome.” said one first time attender with tears in her eyes.
KCC family, ours is a very special and important message of welcome, love and inclusion of all people. It is a message that many in our community long to hear. The uniqueness of our message even drew the interest of the Houston Chronicle who sent a columnist and photographer to do an article for the Religion section (coming soon). This message is spoken loud and clear in the Traditions and Table services. Claim this as an opportunity offer an invitation to someone in your life seeking a place of love and acceptance. There is a place for them at Kingwood Christian Church.